Now that cuffing season is over, you may have found yourself without a boo thang. The same person who couldn’t get enough of you when they needed someone to warm their sheets during those blistery winter months, is the same person who is now M.I.A. Either they are slow to respond to your texts, evasive when it comes to phone calls, or outright distant when in your presence. You can either wallow in self-pity, or dust yourself off, and get ready for the right person to come into your life.
Here are some tips for moving on, and not becoming an April’s Fool For Love.
1. Get A Distraction. Open yourself up to other possibilities. You know what you have to offer. You shouldn’t have to beg someone to be with you. Spend more time around those who know your worth, and want to be in your presence. Accept dates, and fill your social calendar. The more you have going on in your life, the less time you have to brood over the one who walked away.
2. Dismantle The Revolving Door. You know your ex isn’t good for you, so why allow them to keep returning? Don’t talk yourself into giving them another chance. Love is not enough. Figure out what it is about this person that allows you to remain in a broken relationship. Once you realize what is driving your decision-making, you will be able to stop the destructive pattern.
3. Be Free To Feel. Allow yourself to be sad, mad, lonely, and whatever else you may feel. Exhaust each emotion until it no longer drains your energy. In order to say hello to a happy, healthy new relationship, you must rid yourself of the harmful one.
4. Make Two Lists, And Check Them Twice. The first list is to remind you why this person is not the right one for you. The second list is to remind you who you are, and why you deserve the best life has to offer. When doubt creeps back into your psyche, these lists will help you stay focused.
5. Become Successful. The best way to exact revenge is to live a happy, productive life. Some don’t know how good they have it, until it’s taken away. Let their loss be your gain. Keep moving forward, and show them what they’re missing.
People are with us for a reason, season, or lifetime. If their season has ended, don’t make up reasons to keep them around for a lifetime. You can’t always control what happens to you, but you can control how you respond to it. Treat each day as a new beginning, and don’t dwell on the past.